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Object Lessons (1992)

Object Lessons (1992)

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3.79 of 5 Votes: 2
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080410946X (ISBN13: 9780804109468)
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English
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ivy books

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This book teaches that we are always in a phase of learning and discovery about ourselves, our relationships, and our environment. I would like to say it is mainly a coming of age story, but the mother and father are also learning lessons. Quindlen has a marvelous way of expressing feelings that we experience as we learn these lessons. The second quote (I typed below) rang SO true to me, it was like she could read my mind.----------------------------------------"...and Maggie had lost the knack for being happy there. Until this horrible sweaty season, lines had been drawn, in her house, her neighborhood, her relationships. Some of them were lines that connected people - mother and father, friend to friend. They had al een rubbed out as surely as if they had dbeen written in chalk, not stone, and Maggie knew she could not live without them. Sometimes she sat for hours with her back agasinst the rough bark of the tree, blowing on a blade of grass beteen her fingers, wondering what would happen next. Often she cried.""..there are somethings that aren't important. There are things that seem tremendously importat at the time and then years later you look back and thing you can't believe you ever worried so much about them.""She had supposed that a husband and children would teach her to be one of the group, but instead she felt more and more alone among more and more people, a woman whose universe was containeed beneather her own sternum.""This was what his entire married life had been like: long stretches of tedium illuminated by moments, unexpected, when he knew that without her he would be lost. For weeks or months they moved through their separate lives ad slept side by side as though they were two strangers who had mistakenly been assigned the same hotel room. And then something would happen and he would find himself staring at her as though he could see the soul of her, looking for an end to his troubles inside the loop of her arms, and he would be snagged with the fishhook of herself, with the barbed hook of his powerless infatuation with something that she seemed to have, some answer that she seemed to offer.""She's one of those people who sees everything bad. And there are other people who see everything good"

I am surprised that I did not love this book more. It was good, don't get me wrong, but I was expecting to not be able to put it down. I was expecting one of those really easy to lose yourself in books. I had started another of her books a few months ago while I was waiting for someone in the library. I was really drawn into that book, and wished that I was at a point where it was practical for me to start reading another book. But I wasn't, so I left it in the library, thinking "when summer comes..." I don't know if this book is just not as good as the one I dipped into before, or if the other would have been similarly uncaptivating. This book is sort of the typical mid-life crisis of female protagonist that leaves the husband sort of bewildered--the sort of situation where after 20 years of marriage a wife thinks "hey, maybe there is more to life than just being a wife and mother? Maybe I have some identity as a human being besides those things?" Not like there is any wild abandon or anything like that at all, it's just the viewing of an awakening.The awakening in this novel, however, is not limited to the wife. Much of the book is about her daughter growing into her own identity, as well. I liked the character of the daughter quite a lot. Other subjects the book covers: Irish American bigotry (against those not Irish American); family power, dynamics, and coercion; death; duty; love.

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I enjoyed this. I am not a student of the mid-60s in any way, but I do recognize that this book is an extremely narrow portrayal of human experience at that time. I found, however, the characters to be well-written and their dramas to be realistic and I thought Quindlen took a very narrow world and deepened it so that, even though we were not provided much outside of that world, we were given a very three-dimensional view of it. I liked how Quindlen presented a time period of change from the viewpoints of people outside of those changes; Helen Malone's storyline was a secondary one, but Maggie's experience of it, and her mother's, and her father's, all provided a new sort of perspective. Quindlen also demonstrated that the gesture toward independence did not in any way affect everyone, nor did everyone want to experience it.I thought this was enjoyable; I liked some of the characters, disliked others, thought they were all believable and that they carried the novel well.
—Jennifer

This book was very quiet and thoughtful. It's a coming of age, so the main focus is on the sweeping changes in the lives of a mother and daughter over the course of a summer. It's about finding your voice, about learning to accept and love who you are, about breaking away from constraint and oppression to find fulfillment even if that means simply realizing that you've had the things you've wanted all along. This book is full of strong, smart, amazing female characters. Set in the 60s, the setting is very "wholesome," while still showcasing the rumblings of change the decade brought about. While I enjoyed the portrayal of the town, the family and the characters of Maggie and Connie, I did find some of the storytelling a little sleepy. Even the main characters seemed at a remove and I couldn't quite get a grasp on who they were. Even at the end, once they each find their voice, I still felt like I didn't know them at all. I think feeling more of a connection would have warranted a better rating for this book, but I can't say I didn't enjoy the read. I really like books like this and need more of them in my life.
—Nelly

(rating 3.5) Maggie is a young teenager caught on the threshold of establishing her identity. She's a child, but growing into a young woman, confronted suddenly by confusions such as peer pressure, popularity, and boys in a world that had seemed so calm. She's torn between two families: the well-to-do snobs of her father's lineage who seem to excel at looking down on others while failing to smell their own stink, and the more humble immigrants that her mother escaped from by getting pregnant before marriage.Told mostly from the perspectives of Maggie and her mother, this is the story of one pivotal summer, a place in time that Maggie, now an adult looking back, can pinpoint as the time when everything changed.While Maggie's specific experiences are unique (we didn't all spend summers as a teen lighting fires to partially built houses, for example), the feelings that her summer developed were very familiar. She had a lifelong friendship turn sour because of outside pressures, discovered that her mother is a complex human being and not just a "mom"...even her physical world is changing as the big open space behind her house is razed and developed with new housing. All of these experiences help shape the person she is becoming, but they all have that air of bittersweetness that comes with such changes. It's that drift of inevitability, sadness at leaving the familiar behind mixed with a bit of anticipation for what might be next. Curiosity over the new laces with a bit of fear that the old will fade away entirely and no longer be remembered...can people be as easily forgotten? And then, finally, realizing that what ultimately matters is that, no matter what it brings, the decision to move forward must be made by the person moving.On the cusp of a major change in my own life, I found a lot of the sentiment here (though the causes were very different) to be really on point with how I'm feeling so the timing of the story seems like it was just right for me. Sometimes a story doesn't need to be perfectly written if it's read at a perfect time.
—Jen Mays

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