Share for friends:

Until The Real Thing Comes Along (2003)

Until The Real Thing Comes Along (2003)

Book Info

Rating
3.55 of 5 Votes: 2
Your rating
ISBN
009945176X (ISBN13: 9780099451761)
Language
English
Publisher
arrow

About book Until The Real Thing Comes Along (2003)

I grabbed this Elizabeth Berg without having read the back cover (rare for me), but decided to go ahead and start it despite the subject matter.(Minor) ***Spoiler Alerts***From a familial standpoint, I adamantly disagree with how the main character goes about trying to start a family. I know better than to try and inject logic into chick-lit, but we are surrounded by studies that show we cannot have it all. Children suffer when there is not a mother and a father in the home. Berg has a knack for writing characters that I often find selfish and sometimes unwise but I suppose a floundering main character makes for a good story line, so I can look past that.But in the end, there were no consequences. In real life, you don't get to play by your own rules. I kept thinking about her choices, and what little Marilyn's life would look like, growing up without a present father. Patty made choices that would affect other people, but we don't get to see those play out. This neat, tidy package is what separates great literature from an enjoyable chick-lit story I guess.Still, the writing was excellent (4 star level), but I just couldn't get over how contradictory Patty's choices were. She said she wanted a family "more" than anything, but she continually made choices that contradicted that (breaking up with perfectly wonderful men, because she just didn't "feel" that thing). I kept wanting to hand her The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands, to remind her that women stick with real losers, but yet so many throw away a good one when they've got him standing in front of her.It's this modern notion that we have to be happy-feely right in the moment, at all costs, even at the cost of our ultimate happiness, that I tire of. I weary of reading stories where it's wrapped up in a nice, tidy bow when literature should reflect real life, not life was we wish it could be.Life is messy. This story was messy. So why tie it up in a neat little bow? The presence of a baby doesn't usually solve anything. She was unhappy before, and I doubt a nine-month old realistically solved the deepest longings in her heart.Sappy, sweet, I just didn't buy it.

I like Elizabeth Berg's writing style. Her books are always easy to read and I enjoy her observations about things. Whenever I read her books I find myself remembering things that I haven't thought about in years. This, however, is not one of her better books. Instead it's tedious and silly in the extreme.Patty has never been married. The great love of her life is her high school sweetheart, Ethan. They were engaged for a while, but then Ethan realised that he was gay and broke off the relationship. However they have stayed close friends over the years and she has never got over him. Okay. But now she's THIRTY SIX. And she's still burning a candle for him, rejecting any good man who comes her way and generally hoping that one day he'll get over being gay and come back to her.It gets worse. The next paragraph contains plot spoilers, from the first half of the book.Patty rings Ethan one night at 2am and tells him that she'd really like to have a baby. So Ethan immediately jumps out of bed, tears over to her house - as you do - climbs into bed with her and says "let's do it!". Patty immediately decides she must be pregnant because she feels different, so she runs out that morning with her best friend to buy baby clothes and a baby mobile. The cynical side of me was thinking that she should have strung Ethan along for longer if she really wanted to lure him over to the straight side. But anyway. Yes, she's pregnant. Yes, from that one time. But will Ethan now decide that he's not gay? Well maybe he will... Yes, the book is THAT ridiculous.Published in 1999, this book also feels very dated now. Was it really only 11 years ago that people were installing brand new VCR machines and finding the idea of a CD player in a car outlandish?

Do You like book Until The Real Thing Comes Along (2003)?

From the book jacket: What do you do when your life isn’t living up to your dreams? When the man you love is unavailable, and yet you long for a family, a home? What is the cost of compromising until the real thing comes along?My reactionsI really wanted to like this. I’ve read a number of Berg’s books and liked them all. She has a gift for dialogue and for letting the reader into her character’s lives and motivations. But …Patty’s constant wishy-washy attitudes, her complete inability to move on with her life just irritate the heck out of me. I didn’t care what happened to her in her sad little life. I WAS interested in the story with her parents, and wish Berg had explored that storyline rather than Patty’s non-existent fantasy love life.
—Book Concierge

Patty's biological clock is ticking. She has only ever wanted to be with the love of her life, to be a wife, a mother, and to live in a cozy house. She has had several relationships, but none of the men are THE ONE. In fact, she has already found THE ONE...she found him back in sixth grade, fell in love with him, and no one measures up to him. THE ONE is Ethan.Patty and Ethan were friends, then dated, and even became engaged; but Ethan had to call it off. He is gay. (I couldn't figure out, how after all the years of knowing Ethan, that Patty didn't figure this out for herself.) Now, with each passing year, Patty is desperate for the happiness she wants and is willing to have Ethan's baby even if it means not having Ethan.I really didn't like Patty. She was selfish and her desperation to "make it work" with Ethan was humiliating for her and for Ethan. And yet, the raw pain that she felt was so well done. While I was frustrated with her and embarrassed for her, I felt her ache as if it were my own.I really didn't like Ethan. He couldn't love Patty the way she needed/wanted to be loved and yet he led her on, or at the very least, kept her hanging on to hope. In the end, it may have been intended for him to be a stand up guy, but I didn't think so. His decision may have been, in the end, the best for Patty, but I didn't think he made that decision out of any kind of love for her.Ok. I didn't like the characters. But I really liked the book. The raw emotion made it real and painful to read because it seemed so real. The characters, unlikeable as they were,were well-developed and seemed to play out their story right in my own living room. (I wanted to shake them both, that's how real they were.)
—Margaret

This book fits into the "too close for comfort" shelf so well I had to create one just for it. Now, I may not have a gay best friend that I'm in love with, or do a ridiculously poor job of selling houses, but the baby-craving to absurd levels (as in "maybe you should stop staring at other people's children before someone calls the cops on you" levels)? Hell yeah: I'm right there. And Berg is one of my favorite authors, and she tackles the subject maybe a little bit too well, because the book made me uncomfortable. I did not want to find out how Patty solved her problems, mostly because I knew it would not be a solution applicable to my problems. Also, Patty's ability to shield herself from things she doesn't want to recognize (they are too long and spoiler-ish to list here, but trust me, as a reader you see them coming from miles away & a few of those plot points were also uncomfortably close to my own experiences dealing with family and friends) was, perhaps, also a little bit too close to the bone for me. Usually, seeing characters I can relate to is what reading is all about for me, but, as much as I enjoy Berg's writing style and her ability to describe things in concise and apt ways - "I always thought I'd have five or six children, and I have imagined so many lovely domestic scenes featuring me and my offspring. Here we are outside on a hot summer day, running through the sprinkler, The children wear bright fluorescent bathing suits in pink and green and yellow; I wear cutoffs and a T-shirt. There is fruit salad in the refrigerator. Later, I will let the older ones squirt whipped cream for the younger ones; then, if they pester me enough in the right way, I'll let them squirt it into their mouths - and mine." - I almost couldn't finish the book, it was that bad. Melancholy mood to begin with, add a dose of (much too realistic) fiction, and even one of my favorite authors gets a bad rating, unfortunately.
—NTE

download or read online

Read Online

Write Review

(Review will shown on site after approval)

Other books by author Elizabeth Berg

Other books in category History & Biography