About book Blow By Blow: The Story Of Isabella Blow (2010)
This biography, written by the subject's widower, tells of the ups and downs in the life of his fashionista wife, Isabella Delves Broughton Blow."Issie" at 5 years old witnessed her brother's drowning. Her need for parental love and support was met with a coldness implying blame. When her mother divorced her father, she left the household with handshakes for her children. Her father gave even less affection. I believe this sort of treatment was a major factor in producing Issie's self-absorption, exhibitionism, materialism and eventual suicide. I think of Princess Diana advising parents to "Hug your children."Issie's father leaving his fortune to his second wife, and naming Isssie for less inheritance than her grandparents left their servants, should have been anticipated. Issie blew an earlier inheritance that seemed to be of some size. This profligacy I'm sure was noted, but never discussed by her penny-pinching father. I would guess that his will was due to his hating to think that all he had worked for would be piddled away. For Issie this was (understandably, since no explanation was given) a rejection that rocked her already fragile self worth.Issie apparently bought into the system that was so harmful to her. She yearned to produce a male child (then, according to custom, he would inherit the family estate) and felt a failure when she couldn't. Her rank among the British aristocracy gave her a sense of entitlement for things that she could not afford. Appearances had to be kept, so she couldn't ask her successful protégés for a royalty or a position. Detmar defines a total cash bleed, but the purchase of jewelry, homes, decor and cars (a "new Bentley" gets a passing mention) blithely continues. Issie's life is empty and clothing, art work and baronial residences fill a void.She seems to feel no world outside her bubble of fashion and her society of party oriented aristocrats and parvenus. It's a cruel bubble, especially for women as they age. As they dine and drink, Issie attempts to outparty and outdress them. Her celebrity image is important to her career, and probably vital to her. After several suicide attempts and yet another breakdown, at the hospital she advises the staff that she is famous... they can Google her.Husband Detmar is grieving, but not fully analyzing what happened. His childhood had the same love deficit as his wife's. He loved the fun of Issie. Did Detmar need the fun because he couldn't have the love? Could the pressure to produce this fun, not just for him, but for everyone else as well have pushed her too far? Issie loved her jobs in the fashion world, but they carried with them the pressure to be more and more outrageous. Maybe she realized there were limits and couldn't face the world without "more".This book is painful to read, and its photos of Issie painful to view. I hope Detmar can find happiness, he sounds like a good person, trapped in an unfeeling circle of family and so-called friends. After a trip to the Metropolitan Museum of Art last year to see the late designer Alexander McQueen's exhibit, my interest was piqued about his relationship to style iconoclast Isabella Blow. This book, written by her husband, paints an intimate portrait of a woman plagued by manic depression throughout her life. That said, childhood events and the character of both parents may have sent the sanest child into a life coated by imagined inadequacies and fear. How Isabella made up for all this with her larger than life persona in her wild hats and costumes, bright lipstick and a tendency to flash her breasts is a great tale. The book is also peppered with an array of bold-faced names from Madonna to Elton John to Rupert Everett. Perhaps surprisingly, one of the finest portrayals is of Vogue editor Anna Wintour, who gave Issie her first jobs as her assistant at Vogue. Blow's battle with depression of course reminded me of the artist Elizabeth Sparhawk-Jones and others like her suffering from various forms of mental illness. Why do some make it through the darkness and others don't? I loved one particular passage of the author when he says something to the effect of 'like alcoholism or another addiction, at some point the person afflicted with depression has to want to get better.'
Do You like book Blow By Blow: The Story Of Isabella Blow (2010)?
So sad. I knew the ending going in, but I still thought I would read about her changing her mind.
—Jessy
Loved it. Wish I knew who she was BEFORE she died.
—skittlez
